Why Nigerians No Fit Love Again in 2025 (Painful Truth)

Why Nigerians No Fit Love Again 💔

The painful truth many of us no wan talk out loud

Published December 02, 2025 • By Samson Ese • 18 minutes read • Lifestyle & Relationships

Welcome, fam. If you click this article, you don see am for your spirit say something don change for this country. Love no be wetin e be again. We still love, yes — but the kind love wey dey give peace of mind? That one don scarce pass dollar for black market.

Tagline: Real life. Real talk. No sugarcoating.

✍️ Samson Ese — Founder Daily Reality NG. Since 2016 I don write over 500 articles about Nigerian life, interviewed more than 400 people from Lagos to Maiduguri, and helped over 4,000 Nigerians through my WhatsApp community. This one na from my heart.

Last month for Third Mainland Bridge, 9:47 pm, NEPA don take light again, I just dey inside traffic with one sister wey I like well well. We don dey talk since three months. Fine girl, good job for VI, dey go to church. Everything suppose sweet.

Then she talk say: “Samson, I like you die, but I no fit do this relationship thing now. My younger brother school fees na ₦850k next month, my mama rent for Ajah don expire, and my salary never reach ₦300k. Which kind love I wan love?”

I come quiet. Because wetin she talk na the same thing I dey hear from guys too.

Last week for Abuja, my guy Chike wey get good job for one oil company break up with him babe of 4 years. Reason? Babe say make he send ₦500k sharp sharp because her shop rent don reach and landlord don lock door. Chike say he no get am. Babe say “Okay, we go see later.” That “later” never come.

For Port Harcourt, Sister Grace wey dey sell hair for Garrison tell me say: “Uncle, any guy wey no fit add value, make he no near me. My heart no be NEPA wey dey blink.”

Let me be honest — I used to think love go conquer everything. Until life beat that belief comot from my body.

Many Nigerian relationships now start and end inside traffic and fuel queue

Table of Contents

• 1. Survival Mode Don Kill Romance
• 2. Money Don Become the New Love Language
• 3. Trust Don Die Finish
• 4. Social Media & “Packaging” Pressure
• 5. Wetin We Fit Do? (Hope Dey)

1. Survival Mode Don Kill Romance Dead

The truth is, when you dey fight to survive every day, love go dey bottom of your priority list.

For Lagos, average youth dey spend 3–4 hours inside traffic daily. By the time you reach house 10 pm, cook (if NEPA bring light), you go just sleep. Which energy remain to call babe “I miss you”?

Real Talk: One babe for Lekki Phase 1 tell me last week say her boyfriend never call am for 12 days. When she complain, the guy say “Babe, I dey do 3 jobs. I no even get time to breathe.” She come dey cry. But wetin she fit do?

2. Money Don Become the New Love Language

Before, if you love person, you fit trek go visit am. Now? If you no get at least ₦200k alert to send when “emergency” happen, you no serious.

Many Nigerian babes now get “relationship budget” — money wey dem expect from guy every month. No be say dem be runs oh, na survival. Rent ₦1.2m, shop rent ₦800k, family wahala, plus Instagram lifestyle — who love fit help?

Real Example: My guy Emmanuel for Surulere lose him babe because he no fit pay ₦120k for her Brazilian hair before Valentine. The babe say “If you love me, you for find am.” Emmanuel borrow money, babe still leave am after 2 months. Now he get debt + heartbreak.

3. Trust Don Die Finish For This Country

When everybody dey hustle, loyalty scarce. Guys dey keep 3–4 babes because “one fit disappoint.” Babes too dey get “backup plan” because “men no dey stay one place.”

Even married people sef — how many wives you know wey no hide money from their husband because “this economy no sure for anybody”?

4. Social Media & “Packaging” Pressure

Instagram don finish us. Everybody dey post vacation for Dubai, iPhone 16, new whip. Your babe see am, she begin expect the same. If you no fit provide that lifestyle, you become “broke guy.”

Social media don make love turn competition

How to Bring Love Back (Yes, E Possible)

Here’s what nobody tells you — love never die, na the old version die. We need new kind love wey understand this economy.

Key Takeaways 👇

• ✅ Build together instead of expecting ready-made partner
• ✅ Date people wey get the same hustle spirit like you
• ✅ Small small gestures still matter — ₦5k recharge card + honest conversation fit heal heart
• ✅ Communication now na the real love language
• ✅ Make money FIRST, then love go sweet

How to Love Again For This Economy:

1. Find person wey understand say “we dey manage”
2. Be honest about your pocket from day one
3. Cook together instead of expensive dates
4. Pray together — this one still dey work
5. Grow together — the best love stories now na “from nothing to something”

Frequently Asked Questions

Love don finish for Nigeria?

No. E just change form. The old romantic love don turn practical love.

Wetin girls really want now?

Peace of mind + small alert when wahala land. Anything else na bonus.

Samson Ese
Founder of Daily Reality NG. Helping everyday Nigerians navigate life, business, and digital opportunities since 2016. I've helped over 4,000 readers start making money online, and my sites currently serve 800,000+ monthly visitors across Africa.

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